How to “Take”and “Give”Correctly

How to  "Take" and "Give " Correctly

Xue Mo

◎An undergraduate at Fudan University asked: Mr. Xuemo, I just heard of your experiences in three self-breaking and self-transcendence. I have a feeling that, the world would gave been unfolded and mind be opened, every time when you gave up a limited attachment. So I want to ask, what is your opinion on insistence and letting go? When should we insist? When should we let go? What is the relationship between the two? Are they opposite each other or not?  Or, are they probably in a circle? Thank you.

●XueMo: When you have a dream, pay attention that, you need to insist on everything related to this dream, and give up all others not related. When you are on the way toward the dream, you need to reject those temptations. If you are attracted by them, you will forget about your dream. For instance, one writer from the West who was known as author earlier than me, with real talent in writing.  He went to writer training institution of University of North West, soon after he got some reputation in Gansu. At that time, he met a very beautiful girl and had a crush on her. Lots of things happened between them. Then it took a couple of years for him to divorce his wife. He made lots of efforts to let this girl transferred to Lanzhou. However, in the end, the girl didn’t want to marry him. It turned out as a complete mess. More than ten years passed. One day I met him and he said that his life was totally ruined by woman.  So pay your attention on this point, some people follow money, some people run after power or other things. But all of these are desires.

In 《Duzhe》, a magazine, there is a story. A donkey and a white-dragon horse plodded in a circle around a grindstone together. One day, the white-dragon horse was chosen and ridden by Tangseng to go on pilgrimage for Buddhist Scriptures. They fought through numerous difficulties, the eighty-one difficulties, as said in a Novel.After they successfully obtained the Scriptures, the white-dragon horse was conferred as member of “Eight Heavenly Dragon” and became a demigod.  One day, the horse came back to the farmhouse. He said, “Hi, donkey, how are you going?” The donkey said, “I am ten years older than before and what about you? ” The white-dragon horse said, “I am one of “Eight Heavenly Dragon” right now, after I went through lots of difficulties with my master, on the journey to west.” The donkey was amazed, he said, “How tough you are!” The white-dragon horse said, “Actually you are just as brilliant as I, walking all the day. The only difference is that I have been walking toward my target and finally I got there. But you, my dear brother, are always plodding, at the same place.  There are great numbers of people who are walking at the same place, in a circle of family, company, socialization with friends. They spent the whole life in this circle. They were busy walking long distance and took endless time, but achieved nothing.

To let go, is to let go all these things. Still, you walk, but walk towards your target. That is all.

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如何才能正确的“取”“舍”

雪漠

◎复旦大学学生问：雪漠老师，我刚才听到您说了三次打碎和超越。我的感觉是，每当您放弃了一种对狭隘的执著，整个世界就打开了，心胸也开阔了。所以，我想请问您，对于执著和放弃您怎样看待？什么时候执著？什么时候放弃？他们的关系是怎样？是对立还是不对立的？或者它们就是一种循环？谢谢。

●雪漠：当你明白你有什么样的梦想的时候，你就注意，与这个梦想有关的、能够让你达成这种梦想的诸多行为，你就取。跟它没有关系的，就舍、放弃。就是当你奔向那个目的的时候，把出现的许许多多的诱惑舍掉。你要是被这些诱惑吸引了，你就会忘了梦想。我举个例子，有个作家在西部比我出道早，写作很有天分。刚刚在甘肃有名气后，他就上了西北大学作家班。这时候，他遇到一个非常美丽的女孩子。他们之间发生了好多故事。于是，这个人就和原来的老婆离婚。离婚的过程中，他花了好多年。然后，又把这个女孩子调到兰州。调到兰州之后，那个女孩子又不想嫁他了。最后，闹得一塌糊涂，十多年就过去了。有一天我遇到他，他说，雪漠我这辈子叫女人把我害了。注意，有些人追逐金钱，有些人追逐权利，有些人追逐别的。但那些都是欲望。

《读者》上讲了这样一个故事。有一头驴和一匹白龙马同时在磨道里转圈推磨。有一天唐僧骑着白龙马去了西天，经历了九九八十一难。取得真经之后，白龙马被封为八部天龙之一，成为天神了。有一天，他来看磨道里的驴。他问，驴老弟你最近过得怎么样？驴说，我比以前老了十年。马大哥你过得怎么样？白龙马说，我驮着唐僧上西天取经，经过九九八十一难，最后成为八部天龙。驴说，马大哥你真能干。白龙马说，驴老弟呀！我和你都很能干，都在走路，不一样的是我一直朝着那个目标走，终于到了西天。你呢，一直在磨道里转圈，永远在原地踏步。世界上好多众生就是这样在原地踏步。家里、单位、朋友应酬，在这个圈子里打转、打转、打转，转了一辈子，走了无数的路，花了无数的时间，结果一事无成。

舍，就把这些舍了。同样地走，朝着目标走。就这样。

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